Well, I have gotten some good advice on how to deal with the night time tantrums and they are working. I realized that I was actually nurturing Amelie too much. It was hard to come to this realization because as mom's we don't easily see beyond our job to nurture. But, she was getting unruly, whiny, and demanding.
All that I had done for the first two years of her life to create independence was disappearing and I didn't know why. She was starting to need me a lot, and especially at bed time. Well, what I realized is that she had learned manipulation. She was using me to not have to go to bed and deal with it.
So, the first night I told her that I will give her all the kisses, hugs, and cuddles that she needed, but once I leave it's bed time and no more affection. When she got up and came out of her room and I told her to go to bed she went into her room and screamed, cried, and banged her fists on the door. She even threw herself on the floor and started thrashing her room. It was beyond irrational.
Finally, she went to sleep.
The 2nd night, I told her the same stuff, but that if she got up that Daddy was going to deal with her. The funny thing is, she stayed in bed. It's amazing the affect that Dad's have on kids. When the dad is not in control and allows his kids to walk on him, the home is chaos. There is a natural hierarchy and when men do not assume this role, it makes life miserable for women.
Thank you Brad for being the leader of our family and making my life easier. Go team Roeber!!!
All that I had done for the first two years of her life to create independence was disappearing and I didn't know why. She was starting to need me a lot, and especially at bed time. Well, what I realized is that she had learned manipulation. She was using me to not have to go to bed and deal with it.
So, the first night I told her that I will give her all the kisses, hugs, and cuddles that she needed, but once I leave it's bed time and no more affection. When she got up and came out of her room and I told her to go to bed she went into her room and screamed, cried, and banged her fists on the door. She even threw herself on the floor and started thrashing her room. It was beyond irrational.
Finally, she went to sleep.
The 2nd night, I told her the same stuff, but that if she got up that Daddy was going to deal with her. The funny thing is, she stayed in bed. It's amazing the affect that Dad's have on kids. When the dad is not in control and allows his kids to walk on him, the home is chaos. There is a natural hierarchy and when men do not assume this role, it makes life miserable for women.
Thank you Brad for being the leader of our family and making my life easier. Go team Roeber!!!
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